Have you ever wondered what would happen if you were unable to conceive a child? Wanting so badly to be a parent and knowing that you are physically or biologically unable to be one.
This question is a blunt reality for countless individuals and families, to the point that this situation affects their social, emotional, work and personal fulfillment spheres, since according to a study conducted by the World Health Organization, one out of every six people suffers from infertility at some point in their lives. We start from a point where both women and men have this feeling and desire for motherhood or fatherhood that can be incomprehensible and yet day by day they continue to struggle with the harsh reality.
Many of them spend years of their lives trying to conceive a son or daughter, going through losses as well as disappointments, and the consequence is an exhaustion and suffering that becomes increasingly painful and increases anguish, frustration and depression. Some of them live this whole journey in silence, unable to accept the situation and asking themselves the question why me? Others, who are more fortunate, have a support network that encourages them to keep trying, but like everything else, the desire and enthusiasm fades.
Today, a wide diversity of models can be found in society and in its nucleus, the family. Both single-parent and same-parent families have the right to feel this maternity or paternity and to see it fulfilled. So nothing can stop this illusion and desire, which, although years ago was unimaginable, today, with the support of reproductive medicine can harbor a ray of hope and peace of mind.
Every day the number of people, couples and families who resort to reproductive medicine to conceive a baby increases by a large percentage and, despite all the efforts, fertility treatments, medical, psychological and hormonal procedures, they remain in attempts. It should not go unnoticed that each new attempt can lead to a painful loss, which increases the physical and emotional suffering and puts an end to those hopes and desires.
As a consequence, several assisted reproduction techniques have emerged, one of them is gestational surrogacy or gestational surrogacy. This technique has come to give a light at the end of the tunnel for all those who have spent years of their lives trying to become parents, and I will not limit myself to list the ways in which they have tried to be parents, from medical procedures to adoption and that, for biological or governmental reasons or because of the long waiting lists that can be up to years, they have not been able to be parents. Surrogacy has become a possible reality.
Surrogacy provides the opportunity to all people to feel their whole family, to be able to give all that love and affection to their future son or daughter. As a consequence, the biological barrier of impossibilities to gestate is demolished.
This technique of assisted reproduction is one of the most praiseworthy forms I have witnessed, since in order to make it possible, it requires a person, a pregnant woman, who is mentally, physically and emotionally healthy and who selflessly contributes her capacity to gestate. So that once the baby is born, it can be integrated into the bosom of people and families.
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I admire the work done by all these people, pregnant women, who contribute their ability to gestate, because thanks to my profession I have witnessed the bond and the ties that arise from such a great connection that is formed between pregnant women and intended parents. These connections cross borders, break down language barriers, and are bonds that last a lifetime. It is a feeling that is indescribable, according to the families I have been fortunate enough to meet.
There are two moments that have marked my professional career as well as my surrogacy journey. One of them is, being with a couple of intended parents they explained to me that their journey started 5 years ago. Throughout this journey they have visited a hundred specialists, gone through 3 unsuccessful embryo transfers and little by little while telling me their story one of them broke his voice and fell into tears, with tears in his eyes he told me that he could not bear one more failed attempt. They don’t want to stop trying to be parents but the disappointments would end up exhausting them. Today, they are pregnant and all this waiting has been worth it.
It is everyone’s responsibility to understand and transmit that people who resort to surrogacy are only looking for a common goal, to give an answer to the statement “we want to be parents, but we can’t”. Because you may not know it yet, but in the future you could be in this group of people who every day ask themselves why me? And thanks to surrogacy you could change that question for the statement “I want to be a mother or father, and I can be one!
